There is no reason that the romance (and sex) should stop just because you have a baby. While it may be a trying task, you have to make the effort to keep those particular fires burning. But to do so, some of us may have to take a 20th century idea and make it modern.
I hate to admit it, but the time of the mixtape (mix CD) and the radio dedication is now over. But all is not lost. Here is a good way to keep the romance alive. Let me break it down for you: Mixtape/Radio dedication for the twenty-first century.
1. Buy an iPod Shuffle. Under a hundred dollars from Apple.
2. Scour your (and your partner’s—do this discreetly) music collections and find music that appeals to the both of you (and that is reflective of your relationship). Whether or not you actually heard the music together is immaterial. Just be on point about the intersection of the music and your relationship.
3. Take some care and create a musical biography, up until the point you gift the iPod. Don’t shy away from the bad ish, either. Any good relationship will have jagged points—these help us to be able to identify the beautiful times. This biography should be thoughtful, dramatic, and most of all, honest. The music should reflect what is and was, not what you wanted it to be.
4. Using those cute/ugly little ear buds (or, if you have the capability, plug the iPod into a set of external speakers) listen to the music with your partner. Disclaimer: There are bound to be some choices that your partner may say ‘What the hell is this?’ But that’s okay—at least you are having a conversation about your relationship, instead of it just happening without your full participation.
5. After you’ve listened to the whole thing, explain why you did it.
6. Get to being freaky. Trust me, it will be mind-blowing.
From me to you.
1. Buy an iPod Shuffle. Under a hundred dollars from Apple.
2. Scour your (and your partner’s—do this discreetly) music collections and find music that appeals to the both of you (and that is reflective of your relationship). Whether or not you actually heard the music together is immaterial. Just be on point about the intersection of the music and your relationship.
3. Take some care and create a musical biography, up until the point you gift the iPod. Don’t shy away from the bad ish, either. Any good relationship will have jagged points—these help us to be able to identify the beautiful times. This biography should be thoughtful, dramatic, and most of all, honest. The music should reflect what is and was, not what you wanted it to be.
4. Using those cute/ugly little ear buds (or, if you have the capability, plug the iPod into a set of external speakers) listen to the music with your partner. Disclaimer: There are bound to be some choices that your partner may say ‘What the hell is this?’ But that’s okay—at least you are having a conversation about your relationship, instead of it just happening without your full participation.
5. After you’ve listened to the whole thing, explain why you did it.
6. Get to being freaky. Trust me, it will be mind-blowing.
From me to you.
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